No one signs up for life’s hardships especially when it comes to dealing with the unexpected.

I know I said for better or for worse, through sickness and in health but this unforeseen ailment has ruined our plans, strained our relationship and flat out changed everything.

It’s sad and it’s devastating watching your loved one suffer. That alone is tough. But often the other half, the spouse, partner or family members who care for the ailing family member are overlooked.

I first experienced it when I began working with those who were afflicted with Parkinson’s. My job was to provide exercise and wellness programs for those suffering with this illness. But as I saw the devastating effects and the toll that it took on everyone involved I quickly found myself working with the caregiver as well.

Conversations that turned into coaching sessions really helped the caregiver cope. While those same heart to heart conversations are still available as private sessions I also speak at support groups and give workshop sessions.

Dealing with challenges such as role reversal, inner turmoil, personal fears, family dynamics and a whole host of other fears and emotions are all a part of living a new normal.

It’s normal to feel the feelings you’re feeling and you’re not alone. Millions of others are coping and are doing the best they can.

I understand how it feels both as a working professional and as a former caregiver myself. Remember you’re not alone.